Writing about mental health issues

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Current statistics about mental illness in America estimate “1 in 5 adults in the U.S.—43.8 million, or 18.5%—experiences mental illness in a given year.” – See more at: https://www.nami.org/Learn-More/Mental-Health-By-the-Numbers#sthash.SVhkrOSJ.dpuf

Doing genealogy research means that one uncovers facts about behavior that can be difficult to talk about, much less write about. One such example is Daniel Austin Neelings, the cousin of Daniel T Nelings (the Nelings had three common spellings of their name: Neilings, Nelings, and Neelings).

Daniel A Neelings fought in the Civil War with the 27th Iowa. While fighting in the south he suffered heat stroke which left him with debilitating headaches for the rest of his life. Another consequence was repeated, involuntary commitments to the Iowa State Hospital in Independence.

At the end of the 19th century, especially with veterans from the Civil War, mental illness existed, but the treatment was different than in the 20th century. As Grob writes, individuals with a mental illness were generally cared for at home and only the most serious cases were hospitalized. The hospitalizations were generally short, patients were admitted and then released after a short stay (http://content.healthaffairs.org/content/11/3/7.full.pdf). Daniel A’s illness fits this pattern. According to the newspapers, Daniel A. was admitted in 1892, after a daughter died, and 1894, for “religious notions” following a revival meeting.

Mental illness, along with disease, affairs, and bankruptcies, all happened to our ancestors. They are part of our family history as much as ruling nations, starting nations and founding towns. I believe it is important to be honest about our family history, even when the stories may be uncomfortable.

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The challenge of incorrect information

frank smith daisy perry marriage

Frequently, government information is incorrect. Census records will have relationships wrong, names misspelled, places of origin incorrect. This makes sense, given that interviewers may not have understood the person answering the questions and those answering the questions may not have wanted to give certain information. Soundex is a big help in these cases.

Other times it is the family themselves that is reporting incorrect information. For example, the wedding license of Frank H. Smith and Daisy L. Perry. Daisy was the youngest daughter of James Samuel Perry, with his third wife Emma Jane [Elwell]. The license, granted in Pasadena, California on May 14, 1917, states that Daisy’s father was E.A. Perry, born in New York.

James Samuel Perry, my great-great-great grandfather and Daisy’s father, went by many names: J.S. Perry, Samuel Perry, James Perry to name a few. E.A. Perry was not one of them. And, according to the family bible, and the majority of records, James was from Vermont, not New York. James most likely lived in New York, in Warren County, immediately after leaving Vermont. This was where his first family was left behind.

Was this error a result of transcribing data from the original license into the county records book? Was Daisy confused about where her dad might have been from? Was James honest about his past?

No matter what, E.A. Perry provides another option for searches.

Names in document: Frank Durham (Baptist Minister), Maud O. Durham, Frank H. Smith, Daisy L Perry, J.W. Smith, S.E. Thomas, Emma Jane Elwell.

 

 

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Helmbolt and Keith Wedding

The courtship and wedding of Thomas Helmbolt and Eugene Keith was as exciting, and mysterious, as their life in Canada.As reported by the Twin Falls News in 1907:

Miss Eu Gene K. Keith of Payette and Thomas G. Helmbolt of Salubria, Idaho, were married at the Hotel Perrine at midnight last Friday…under somewhat romantic circumstances.”

Thomas tried to get a wedding license that afternoon. Since he was a stranger to Twin Falls, Thomas was not aware that the county clerk had left for his farm. Folks in Twin Falls heard about the desire of the couple to be married that day, and everyone from the Assessor to the Mayor offered to marry them (on a tax receipt, water contract or poll tax receipt and not a marriage license, however). At long last the Deputy Clerk G.H. Smith was spurred from his bed and issued the license. Even though the hour was late, so many from the town had heard about the situation that the midnight wedding was well-attended. Two local men acted as flower girl and maid in waiting, and the boys drank long for the health of the bride and groom.

Helmbolt Keith wedding news

 

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Frank Delos Tyrrell. Pilsen Czechoslovakia. 3 Sept 45

Pilsen Czechoslovakia Mon 3 Sept 45

Dear Sis Geo and kids:

It seems as though I have a hell of a time settling down long enough to write a letter but I make a stab at it whenever possible.

Since I have been in Division Hq I have been traveling a lot. Last week on Mon I flew to another div. Hq near Beyreuth then on Tues I flew to Salzburg and to Linz both of which are in Austria. Then on Wed up into Czechoslovakia and on Thur I flew down to a town near Munich. Fri I came up to Pilsen for a few days to arrange some business with another division. I expect to finish and return to Division tomorrow so I can take a 1 day leave to the Riviera or into Switzerland. I am really seeing this God forsaken country. I’ll see it well enough so I won’t have to come back.

I got a letter or note from Amy Peterson the other day requesting me to fill out a form for the Preb Guiding Light, helping hand or something of the sort. What the hell, has Amy gone off the deep end? I would have filled it out and returned it but unfortunately I lost track of the slip. Not that I want the magazine, paper or whatever it was. So if , when you see her, you will tell her I lost the slip but you don’t think it would pay to send it because I may be coming home in Nov and papers are very slow in coming. The De Smet news is always from a month to six weeks and longer in reaching me.

How is Wanda’s husband getting along? He has a reason to be bitched off for the Jerry’s weren’t nice. But I doubt if he has seen men in a condition of some Tommies that my Bn helped free. They had been prisoners since Africa. I figure any one getting out with his health was lucky as hell. [This was likely at Polleben. http://www.3ad.com/history/wwll/feature.pages/call.me.sequel.2.htm#anchor287436]

Don’t take the concentration camps lightly. Newspapers and movies can’t begin to describe them, all they are are pictures. I have a pretty strong stomach and have seen a lot of horrible things but by god that turned me inside out. [Terry is likely describing the liberation of Nordhausen. http://www.3ad.com/history/wwll/spearehead.west/chapters/central.germany.htm]

Nope, the longer I stay over here the more I wonder just what the hell this..
war settled. [there appears to be a break or missing page] An American never will understand how these people think or how to treat them. We are different from the people here (except the German) as day and night.

Enough bitching for one night.

Love Terry

P.S. I hope to be home in time to use those shotgun shells.

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Daniel T Nelings Account Book

The following are names in the account book of Daniel Thompson Nelings. DT Nelings worked as a plasterer in Iowa and also in South Dakota when he moved there with his family. This account book was from plastering work done in and around National, Clayton County Iowa. Jun- July 1867.

Daniel T Nelings AccountBook,   DTNelingsacctbook_40001,  DTNelingsacctbook_pt3,  DTNelingsacctbook_20001

Axelmier (p. 7)

S. Banfman (p. 16)

S. Banjiman (p. 19)

David Banshaw  (p. 16)

G. Barstow (p.3)

Sam’l Blow (p. 21)

G. Branshy [sp] (p.3)

E. Brant (p. 25)

Nat Brunson (p. 4, 26)

The Iowa State Census for 1856 has a 42 year-old N.S. Brunson living in Windsor, Fayette County, Iowa.

A.C. Buck (p. 15)

The US Census for 1850 has a 24 year-old Albert C. Buck living in Farmersburg, Clayton County, Iowa.

J.P.L. Clark (p. 2, 5)

The 1870 US Census has at least 2 John Clarks living in Clayton County Iowa. One in Lodomillo and the other in Cass/Strawberry Point.

A.M. Cortes (p. 13)

The 1870 US Census has an Allen M. Cortes living in Farmersburg, Clayton County Iowa and working as a farmer.

John Covey (p. 20)

The 1870 US Census lists 2 John Coveys in Clayton County. Both live in Mendon, and they appear to be father (71 years old) and son (37 years old).

Danford Edey (p. 3, 7)

The 1870 US Census has a 43 year-old Danford Edey living in McGregor Iowa.

Mr Finey (p. 1)

Parker Hall (p. 30)

US General Land Office Records shows a purchase of 40 acres by a Parker Hall in Sperry Township in Clayton County in 1859.

Norman Hamilton (p. 20)

The 1870 US Census shows a 39 year-old Norman Hamilton in Farmersburg Iowa.

Heley (p. 12)

Holensworth (p. 5)

The 1856 Iowa State Census has an Elias Holensworth living in Farmersburg Iowa.

A. Hulnise (p. 1)

H. Hutsons (p. 23)

Wm Ibel (p. 4)

The 1870 US Census has a 26 year-old William Eibel living in McGregor, Iowa.

James Jack (p. 4, 28, 29)

James Jack was the neighbor of Daniel T. Nelings in Farmersburg Iowa. He is probably the brother of David Jack, the husband of Mary E. Nelings and uncle of Jessie Annette (Jack) Hooper.

Charles James (p. 25)

The 1870 US Census has a Charles James living in Millville, Iowa.

James Joans (p. 30)

The 1870 US Census has a 59 year-old James Jones living in Farmersburg Iowa.

Wm Keley (p. 29)

John Knight (p. 27)

The 1870 US Census has a 36 year-old John Knight living in Farmersburg Iowa.

M.A. Knight (p. 4)

Krandton (p. 11)

Wm Linton (p. 18)

The 1870 US Census has a William Linton living in Farmersburg, Iowa.

T. Lockwood (p. 9)

Calven Miller (p. 4, 24)

C. Morgan (p. 9)

E. Murphy (p.1)

David Nickels (p. 12)

The 1870 US Census has a David Nickols living in Farmersburg, Iowa.

A. Palmer (Halmer?) (p. 1)

The 1870 US Census has an Asal B. Palmer living in Farmersburg, Iowa.

John Pace (p. 5)

The 1860 US Census has a J.B. Pace living in Millville, Iowa.

James Parch (p. 1)

The 1870 US Census has a James Parch living in Boardman Twp, Iowa.

O.D. Pettit (p. 5, 28)

George Ranshow (p. 17)

Leonidas Renshaw (p. 16)

The 1860 US Census has a 17 year-old Leonidas Renshaw living in Farmersburg, IA.

T. Rousk [sp] (p. 3)

Rutter/Ruther (p. 1)

Simeon Scott (p. 14)

P. Shaler (p. 10)

Edwin Shirman (p. 17)

Barton Smith (p. 6)

David Smith (p. 12)

Fred Smith (p. 26)

Benjamin Smith (p. 7)

Dr. White (p. 18)

A. Woodart (p. 2)

Alison Woodward (p. 2)

W. Woodward (p. 13)

The 1870 US Census has a John W. Woodward living in Strawberry Point IA working as a carpenter and joiner.

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Alexander W. Perry marries Abbie Cheney

“A noon wedding occurred in Mankato today. Mr. Alex W. Perry and Miss Abbie V. Cheney of Amboy were married, the ceremony taking place at the Stahl House, Dr. C. Line of the Methodist church officiating.” The (Mankato) Review, Nov 9, 1897.

Mankato Paper Social

Stahl housestahl http://reflections.mndigital.org/cdm/ref/collection/blue/id/2731

The Stahl House is now a wine bar, and is at the corner of Riverfront Dr and Plum St. Street View Stahl House

Abbie Cheney’s family came from Rutland County Vermont, the same county that James Perry came from. There were a number of Cheneys who also lived in the Mankato area, including Rapidan. In fact, Rapidan lists a Perry W. Cheney as a barber (no known connection to Abbie Cheney or the Perrys in my family).

 

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James Samuel Perry–three families

One of the biggest recent shockers in my family history has been about my great-great-great grandfather, James Samuel Perry.

For the longest time, my dad and I were trying to find out about James Samuel Perry. We knew that he married Lydia May SMITH in Rockford, Illinois in 1853. Their oldest son, Charles James, was born in Savannah, Illinois in 1854 and the rest of the children, including my great-great-grandfather, were born in Minnesota. Between 1860 and 1870 James Perry disappeared.

A couple of years ago, based on family trees and emails from people on Ancestry.com, we found out that he left Lydia and his children in Winnebago, Faribault County, Minnesota and moved back to Illinois with Jennie Emma Elwell.  He then married Jennie and they had three daughters, one (Daisy Perry SMITH) who lived to adulthood.

Just this summer my dad discovered evidence in family trees on Ancestry that suggests James Samuel Perry had a marriage and family before Lydia in 1853. The 1850 US Census in Johnsburgh, Warren County, New York lists a Samuel Perry, born in 1819 in Vermont, living with his wife Mary, infant daughter Mary, son Benjamin, father Sardis, and sister Amanda M. Perry. Like my ancestor, this Samuel Perry worked as a tailor. My dad found an article that stated that Samuel had left the family and was missing about 1853, leaving his family and another son, Oliver Hazard Perry.

As a side note, Oliver Hazard Perry lived in various places in Nebraska, including Cozad, and died in 1922 in Jerome, Yavapai County, Arizona. He was a photographer and died in a fire fueled, in part, by the chemicals used in developing film.

Lessons learned:

  1. Behavior repeats. If a person has left one family it makes sense to consider that s/he has left other families. Don’t rule out information that otherwise fits simply because that information includes another family.
  2. Always take screenshots or save information that is found once!
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Frank Delos Tyrrell. Somewhere in Germany. 13 April 45

Somewhere in Germany 13 April 45

Dear Sis and Family:

Just a note to let you know I am O.K. I don’t have much time to write to anyone now days for when we are pushing we go night and day catching a cat nap when we can. You get so damn tired you loose all sense of time dates and days. I hope that it ends soon. When you get that tired you get careless and that’s what I did the other day and damn near for mine from a sniper. I think I learned my lesson and it wan’t happen again. From now on I shoot first and ask questions later. They are a dirty sneaking bunch of rotten bastards. They are whipped and know it but still keep on fighting. Well one consolation, they can’t keep it up much longer. Although I don’t think the country will ever fall like it did on the last war I think we are fighting a war of occupation right now. I think we will have to occupy the whole country by force and hold it the same way.

Sorry to hear that you couldn’t make the trip to the coast.  I will be stopping in when we go through if they don’t ship us to the CBI theater before we have a chance to breathe.

Pass my letter or the news I am O.K. on. I don’t expect to write. I do well to get one off to Midge more than once or twice a week.

Love

Terry

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Frank Delos Tyrrell. Somewhere in Luxembourg. 1 Nov 44

Somewhere in Luxembourg  1 Nov 44

Dear Sis, Geo and Kids:

I have a Nazi flag all packed ready for mailing if I ever get the chance. It is rather large but only made out of cotton. I have been on the look out for a large silk one.

It looks like this damn thing might drag out for some time. I understand that the people back home had the war won when we were tearing across France. I don’t see how they can be so damn foolish. This is a dirty rotten mess. I hope to hell Tommy never gets a look at anything like it.

To keep our mind off from fighting we raise a lot of hell when he have the chance. I guess the best way to describe it would be to say we do everything that would be prohibited in the States. I have drank more champagne than I ever saw in America. I got a little hot one day a couple of months ago and cleaned up around $1400.00. What a time for a couple of weeks until I counted up and only had around $1000.00 left so I started sending some home to Midge. I sent her around $700.00 and keep enough for a couple of parties.

I am going to look for another game one of these nights and see what happens. Don’t mention this to Midge as she still is in the dark about where the extra dough comes from.

We are entitled to wear three battle stars on our campaign ribbon, and I have been given the bronze star. Not much an award, about as low as they come, but it brings back memories of a hole I will never be in again if I can help it. I don’t mind seeing the bastards killed, but I would sooner have it at a little longer range.

Good night for now.

Terry

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Frank Delos Tyrrell Oct 6 1944. Somewhere in Europe

Somewhere???? 6 Oct 44

Dear Sis:

I received your package to-day. It has been so long since I have had a good cigar that I smoked Tommy’s first so I would enjoy it more.
Midge keeps me pretty well posted on all the family even though I don’t have time and I don’t write often when I do have time.
I bought several bottles of good perfume for Midge. I ams ending it through a little at a time. If it all goes through OK I’ll mail her some more. Otherwise I’ll hang on to it until the war is over. I have been buying all the “Chanel” #5 and #22 I can get. It’s fairy cheap in France but as expensive as hell in America.
I I remember, Maynard Muilenberg’s number correctly mine is two less than his.
I sent Midge some cameras and I have one very good one that I am carrying. It belonged to a Gerry major but the son of a bitch won’t miss it now. I took 2 rolls of film, but didn’t understand all the gadgets so the pictures didn’t turn out. I think I have learned how to run it so I should get some good pictures of Adolph’s country.
I’ll send you a good Gerry flag as soon as we get into Germany.
Thanks again to you and the kids for the cigars.
Tell George to have a jug on hand because I am going to celebrate from New York to Seattle. I have sent Midge a few hundred dollars from my earnings (?) to finance one hell of a big party.
Every one has their idea of when the war with Germany will end. My idea is October will damn near see the end if not its end. I can dream can’t I.

So long for now

Terry

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